OKCupid experience
I signed up on OKCupid for 5 days and this is what my profile looked like....
Hold on, before you assume that I'm back in the dating world, I'm not.
This is a social experiment. I wanted to see how many guys would message me and what the contents of that message were without knowing anything about me. Some I responded for sh*ts and giggles but these are mostly first messages.
My name on there was MacyLu13 because why put my real name on my experiment? I didn't put a photo of my face, I just ulpoaded the back of my friend's head & the back of my head with a really bad pigtail. Although I didn't fill out the questionnaire, the photos do tell the 'viewers' that I like art, that's an interest. Easy enough.
Well, I did not expect this... it went from 0 - 100, real quick!
BAD PICK-UP LINE, BRUH!
Asking a question to start conversation is a normal thingbut most of the messages I've received won't really make anyone want to explore more. Maybe it's their lack of game or maybe I'm just a tough audience.
Like that one guy who said I looked 'normal' because only abnormal people sign up on OKCupid? Yea, he can really get a girl interested with that, for sure.
How about the guys who just flat out asked to hang out without any prior conversation? Shouldn't you try to figure out if you're not talking to a serial killer first?
Or the guy who wants more photos of me because why would he start conversation with someone without a face, right?
Or the guy who said 'hey sexy' because the back of our heads are 'reedicuhluhs'?
How about the guy who said he has a bottle of red wine with my name on it? Like shouldn't he make sure I'm not allergic to red wine first?
So many questions & I can't deal!
WHAT PROFILE? WHAT LIPS? LIAR.
I'm guessing these guys are the ones who are ALWAYS ON. They have copied and pasted the same first message to a whole bunch of women, just waiting to see who replies back. Of course, for me, it won't work (happily taken or not) because my profile is blank. They clearly were not paying attention.
...No woman wants a man who does not pay attention
WHY ARE YOU GROSS?
THIS SET IS UNBELIEVABLE.
If what you want to say to introduce yourself online WON'T WORK in person, maybe you shouldn't say it at all.
I get it, they want to be straight forward, no monkeying around but goodness! I also understand that there's a sense of security when these dudes converse online...
...NO ONE can punch them in the face!
I'm not at all pessimistic about online dating. I know so many people who met their partners on OKCupid and have successful relationships.
One thing that I was confused about is the match percentage. How can they really determine the match when I didn't fill out a complete profile? I think that's a feature that can give one hope on finding a 'match' but let's be real, they're not accurate. This feature can also make someone skip a probable match because of a low match percentage. Finding a match is NOT mathematics.
Another problem is the rush. Whatever happened to conversation and friendships that can lead to something more? See, when people rush, they tend to be reckless. Same goes for first impressions. These guys just wanted to say what they're looking for and that's that. I give them credit for cutting to the chase but it's creepy AF especially if that's their first message. They can't just assume everyone on these dating apps are into what they're into. How they talk to women concerns me.
This 'experiment' made me even more grateful that I have a loving & decent man by my side.
I feel bad for anyone who has to go through all these guys before they meet a promising prospect.
And if you're a guy on OKCupid, don't be like any of these dudes. Be a decent human being.